Parents who separate should carefully consider the arrangements they make for their children. It is important for parents to remember that while they may be preoccupied with their own problems, they continue to be the most important people in their children’s lives. While parents may be devastated or relieved by the permanent ending of the relationship, children can also be frightened or confused by the break-up of the family.
It is best for the children if parents can reach agreement between themselves on arrangements for their children. In many cases the children will live mainly with one parent and spend periods with the other parent on a regular basis. Sometimes parents will decide to share the care of their children on an equal basis. The law recognises that parents are best placed to make these arrangements and the courts will only make orders as a last resort.